All children dream of a pet. To fulfill this dream or not is up to you. And we will help weigh the pros and cons
Marley and company
How many touching films have been made about the friendship of the little ones with their pets! Labrador Marley (" Marley and I ") met the children every day from school. St. Bernard Beethoven from the film of the same name helped his little friends in all leprosy at all. The boy George and the talking mouse Stewart ("Stuart Little") won the race of sailboats together, and the girl Eve coped with the bandits with the help of her handmade monkey ("Nuisance with the monkey") ...
In these fictional stories there is some truth: pets help the child become self-confident, get rid of the loneliness that often torments adolescents in the transition years, learn to be responsible and take care of those who need help. This is confirmed by statistics: children who have pets, think more positively and even smile more often than their friends who are brought up without animals.
The animal makes the baby more sociable. Therefore, many psychologists advise parents whose children are closed, have problems with speech, have a dog or cat. The same advice they give to adults who have one child - a pet will not let him grow up selfish. And aggressive children learn to be soft animals.
Not a toy, but a family member
If you decide to have a pet, first discuss with the baby the issues of upbringing and responsibility. The child must understand that a pet is not a toy, but a living being that can rejoice and experience pain. Explain that a dog, a cat or a parrot is a full member of the family that you need to take care of. You can read to the child several stories about pets or show a movie so that the baby has a correct and complete picture of our smaller brothers and how to behave with them.
In no case do not impose an animal on the baby: if the child does not want a pet, it is better not to start it. Otherwise, you will have to take care of the beast. However, at first you will have to take care of the animal and show your child how and what to do. It is necessary to shift responsibility for the pet to children gradually.
It is believed that a child can take care of a parrot, a hamster or a guinea pig alone from 7-8 years old, and take care of a dog or a cat - from 12-13. Naturally, you must constantly monitor this process.
To each his own
Let the child decide on what animal he wants to be friends with. As a rule, children dream that animals participate in their games, so it's better to choose an energetic pet: a cat, a dog (read the article " Dog for a child "), a hamster or a rat. With turtles babies are bored: they are too slow and unemotional. But the fish just fit the hyperactive guys - watching the smooth movements will calm the restless child.
Many are convinced that the best companion for a child is a dog. Understanding and moving, he can not only share with his young friend all his fun, but also, if necessary, protect him. However, you should not trust stereotypes recklessly - not every dog can become a nanny. Moreover, a wayward or jealous dog should not be allowed to go to children at all until the specialist re-educates him. Moreover, even a good-hearted pet needs special training. So, a cheerful labrador who does not know the commands, on a walk can easily "carry" the child after him on a leash.
Acquaintance with the newborn
It often happens that in the family first a pet appears, and then a child. And, some future parents are so concerned about the behavior of the animal in relation to the baby, that even get rid of the pet - and make a big mistake.
Of course, there are really aggressive animals. With some dogs and cats even adult masters get on with difficulty. But most pets will never attack a defenseless baby - other people's "babies" are taboo for them. Nevertheless, how the child's relationship with the animal will develop depends on the parents.
Even before the appearance of the baby's house, show the beast to the baby's crib and explain that it is impossible to climb there. When the baby is born, lay an animal on the diaper on which the baby was lying, so that the pet gets used to the new smell. And when, at last, cross the threshold with a newborn, do not hide it, but show the beast - then one day they will become best friends.
Do not forget: no matter how much trouble you do not appear with the birth of a child, once you took responsibility for the pet and should not let it down. Give him as much attention as he received before - then he will never become a dangerous jealous person.
Do not allow a grown up child to yank the cat by the tail, and the dog pulls the ears - not all animals will like this treatment. And the more so, do not make the pet sit at the child's hands, if your four-legged friend by nature is wayward. Perhaps he will not become a nanny, but he will remain your friend.
The last word
Many opponents of pets argue that pets do not have a place next to children: quadrupeds become carriers of infections, they have too much dirt, wool, and finally they can snatch an inquisitive baby. However, recent studies have revealed an interesting regularity: children who constantly interact with animals have a stronger immune system than those who do not have pets.
Whether to believe scientists and psychologists is your business. But before you start a pet with a pet or give up a pet, remember your own childhood dreams. Whatever gift you want to receive on your birthday, the most cherished desire was always a faithful dog or affectionate cat. Maybe it's worth making this dream a reality for your baby?